Not Me ! You Are A Bigger Fool !!

Be Foolish……Be Happy

Life has its ways to pull you up or pull you down and give you the schooling you require. The tricky part is when it takes you downhill. But, you too have the ways to dupe people and the circumstances and live a life as we call it. King Size.

Not me, you are a bigger fool!

“A new research shows that when politically savvy professionals use coping skills, they may neutralize ostracism and other psychological distress that other less savvy individuals have to cope with in the workplace. Workplace ostracism — an adult form of bullying, has become common in the workplace.”

As you read above, we all know that in a usual life there are people like your boss, your colleagues or your supervisor who are never content with all that you do. There are situations when they yell at you, tell you things with an intention to let you down. You get disappointed for obvious reasons. But without loosing hope, remind yourself that one thought can make the difference. Just allow this uncomplicated yet effective idea to slip into your mind after such events – The person in front of me is foolish. Please God bestow him/her with the wisdom. See for yourself; it takes only minutes to get a hold of youself again. It also helps to boost your self esteem as well.

The empty chair

You had a bad day. There are people in your life that you want to let things know so much, but just don’t have the courage to. Things are piling up inside you and causing havoc with your personality. A very foolish yet incredibly therapeutic way can help you take out that all. Just be in your room. Pull a chair, visualize that one odd individual sitting on that chair and without a timer tell him/her what you always wanted to. Don’t hesitate to let your heart out, have an open dialogue. Once you are done, close your eyes and feel the lightness and relaxation within. This technique often brings you into present or immediate experiences. Abstractions or verbalizations become enlivened moments. You may be able to experience different aspects of your own conflicts in a new manner through empty-chair dialogue. People have given a piece of their mind to innumerable spouses, bosses, best friends and dead relatives thanks to this simple tool.

Plant that tree

Everyone seeks peace and harmony, because this is what we lack in our lives. From time to time, we all experience agitation, irritation, and dishar­mony. And when we suffer from these miseries, we don't keep them to ourselves; we often distribute them to others as well. In order to be relieved of our miseries, we have to know the basic reason for it, the cause of the suffering. If we investigate the problem, it becomes clear that whenever we start generating any negativity or impurity in the mind, we are bound to become unhappy. Negativity in the mind, a mental defilement or impurity, cannot coexist with peace and harmony. If something unwanted happens and you start to react by generating anger, fear or any negativity, then, you are advised to divert your attention to something else. The good solution is to avoid both extremes — suppression and expression. Burying your negativity in the unconscious will not eradicate it, and allowing it to manifest as unwholesome physical or vocal actions will only create more problems for you.

Take for example, you always suffer and ask God, “Why me?”

No body has time for you to listen out your mind. Not to be anxious as you have an exclusive way to transform your negativity to positivity. Take out enough time and a personal space. Write all your worries, thoughts, feelings towards this universe and when you are done bury those papers with a plant seed. Water it, nurture it everyday. See for yourself how that bud grows itself into a tree. It’s a manifestation that your negativity has been transformed into something very positive. Enjoy the difference within and trust that there is Hope even in hope/less/ness, there is I M Possible in every Impossible, there is Worth in every Worth/less/ness.

Embarrass yourself

One gets tired of those repetitive negative thoughts. They just keep coming and it seems to be a never ending process. Next time whenever you have that irritating thought, shout STOP! loudly. Religiously do it every time. It starts working within few hours. Since you don’t want to be considered foolish, you start avoiding those thoughts ultimately.

The basis of this technique is that you consciously issue the command, STOP! when you experience repeated negative, unnecessary or distorted thoughts. You then replace the negative thought with something more positive and realistic.

The principles of why thought stopping works are pretty straight forward. Interrupting bothersome and unnecessary thoughts with a STOP! command serves as a reminder and a distraction. If you are using thought stopping, you become aware of unhealthy thought chains and divert your attention from damaging repetitive thought habits.

Using the thought stopping technique can give you a sense of control. When followed with positive and reassuring statements, you are breaking the negative thought habit and reinforcing a sense of reassurance. If unhealthy thought patterns have influenced how you feel and how you behave, so too, will healthy and beneficial thoughts — but in a much better way, of course! The loud “STOP” acts as an aversion, guiding you to renovate your beliefs. You become an individual with a constructive cognition.

The miracle question

Imagining an ideal future and connecting it to the present immediately actualizes the thought process. You are challenged to look past your obstacles and hopelessness and focus on the possibilities. The miracle question is a goal setting question that is useful when you simply feel out of the league and does not know what a preferred future would look like. By using the miracle question and asking yourself what a better life would look like, your system sees perhaps for the first time, what actually you need from life and people around.

The question is: "Suppose tonight, while you slept, a miracle occurred. When you awake tomorrow, what would be some of the things you would notice that would tell you life had suddenly got better?"

It catapults you from a problem saturated context into a visionary context where you have a moment of freedom, to step out of the problem story and into a story where you are more problem free. It helps you to see where actually you want to go.

Take charge of your life and move on!

 Courtesy : 21fools